What is the impact of our emotions in our life, in our daily success? An example of personal development: To live is to free your Imago to deploy your Mago*.
For that, it will be necessary to take up a last challenge, that of loneliness.
*Mago : personal magician
In these gloomy times, when everything seems to be on the verge of an economic crisis, or even a health crisis with the #coronavirus pandemic, Jacques Welch’s sentence “When the speed of evolution of the market exceeds that of the organization, the end is near” inspired me.
This gives: “When the speed of evolution exceeds that of the organization, the mutation is near“. It seems to me to be the ideal introduction to my 3rd article on emotions. I invite us here to revisit loneliness, sadness to revive joy and hope on a daily basis.
The organization offers us a living environment to detect what hinders us on a daily basis, making us obsolete even before having lived.
Loneliness will support us on the path to healing our soul and to joy. Understanding our emotions will gradually lead us to transform our fault lines into lines of force.
It is a philosophy of common sense where the alliance of modernity and nature will be a source of innovation and progress that I am offering you here to be reborn to oneself and to others. An invitation to be yourself to make cooperation possible without hatred, without shame, without fear and to abandon this early alarmism.
Let’s face up, face it, and rise up. Let us integrate this work of positive innovation and cooperation at every moment of our life, and on a regular basis in ourselves, then in each unit of the company, at each level of management, in each place where we pass.
The article is divided into 3 parts, the business context in which this loneliness is observed, the impact it has on oneself and a motion for a resolution to face first individually their loneliness.
If you recognize yourself in this paragraph: sadness with its weight of loneliness, repressed absence, isolation weighs on our shoulders. It is the result of our failures in love, of friendships, of our disillusions or of the absence of shoulders on which to lean. The absence of debates with others isolates us and makes us possessive or aggressive, and closes us to the joy of new complicity. It propels hate, anxiety and depression, locking us into a low vibration. So do the exercise suggested in part 3.
If you’re curious, read Part 1. Discover Behavior in a Business Context. Maybe it will tell you about yourself or someone you know.
And if you’ve read Part 1, find out what impact this marker has on us.
If you like my style, read all 3 parts, comment to create a lively exchange and share with others so that reconciled individuals are born.
Part 1 – Loneliness in a business context
Imagine a team of 4 people and a manager. Rather feminine team, having had to face unfaithful love affairs, divorce and daily life to raise their children.
A profile of hard-working, efficient women, leaving little room for emotion. Somehow, the team is united thanks to the pleasure of the task carried out. Few things bring them together but too bad, they are present to perform the cleaning tasks. No matter what, work is work. It has to be done, quickly and efficiently. No time for overtime or to feel sorry for each other.
One of the team members leaves. To be of service, another suggests that her best friend join the team. Will friendship resist this environment based on emotionless work, or only efficiency exists?
The newcomer takes place. She is instructed in the procedures by her friend. Little by little, she breaks the working rules by creating her own experiences and gaining in autonomy. Therefore, she builds the framework of her work.
She suggests going out, a bit casually, a bit sneakily from her friend. The working atmosphere is less laborious, the after work moments enrich the chatter.
One of them takes umbrage at this new atmosphere, this break in habits, having no time, no desire or money to go out with others. The gossip excludes her. She experiences as a betrayal these budding friendships which sent her back to her loneliness. Alone to do the job, efficiently when others are chattering. Alone when she gets home. The loneliness buried deep within her suddenly resurfaces, unbeknownst to her. As a result, she reminds everyone of the work to be done, invites silence to better concentrate, involuntarily breaking the joy of others from which she feels excluded. She isolates herself more and more from others, misunderstood, and goes back to work diligently. Yes but, she works well and no one tells her.
This story could also be that of a father so invested in his work and who gradually ends up forgetting his family and who he really is. Or that of the loneliness of an entrepreneur, faced with the decisions and risks to be taken. Loneliness is a major axis of our personal transformation. It is like an obligatory journey to bring us back to life, to reinvent ourselves.
Part 2- What is the impact of loneliness on you?
Remember the asymmetric functioning of our brain, which we have known about since the end of the 19th century and which we find under the name Broca’s area.
This area divides our brain into 2 hemispheres with, on the left, the seat of our logic, and the right hemisphere, the seat of our intuitions. Each of these hemispheres being basically divided into 4 territories.
The 4 territories below interact with our emotions. To make it easier to read, I will assign the paleo-limbic and neo-limbic territories to the left, and to the right, the reptilian and prefrontal territories.
I will add that the upper part, neo-limbic and prefrontal, are the visible parts of our Self in interaction with others. The lower part, paleo limbic and reptilian, would be the buried part of our ego.
In my interpretation, sadness and loneliness are lodged in these neo-limbic territories. Here, the individual manages his phases of motivation, his conditioning to offer others a response adapted to the context in which he evolves.
Loneliness sticks together and remembers how much:
“There is sadness
A little distress
A bit of loneliness
Which becomes habit …
Sometimes a fake smile
Who hides the word die
A funny feeling
To be there without being there, like an idiot.
It’s a funny thing … sadness
Gloomy ideas that hurt you even more.
A flow of tears
Who have lost their charm …
An outstretched hand
Who, on the way, got lost …
An endless fall
Without tomorrow…
A little of yourself
That we lose every time …
Like a little death of the heart
Who waits for his last hour …❤️
Poem by an Unknown Artist
This loneliness becomes our second skin, our raison d’être. To overcome it, we must seek forgiveness from ourselves, deep within ourselves, well hidden, enclosed in a nutshell. Loneliness was an appropriate response to rebuild, protect yourself against abandonment, the sentimental and economic abyss that has ravaged us. It was our best friend, our excuse to be pampered or assert her rights to survive.
Part 3-What resolution can we bring?
During “the covid”, Irubbed shoulders with some people plagued by the fear of not getting out of it, alone to face (Alone = misunderstood, alone in the face of adversity where life is a fight against loneliness and lockdown), I hesitated on the conclusions of this article. Perhaps feeling illegitimate to speak of loneliness in the face of these lonely people, alone in life and alone in the desert of their soul. Especially since they seemed to multiply with lockdown, meeting other souls alone, unable to see the other … only facing other solitudes.
But this loneliness, each at some point in his life is confronted with it, even as a couple, even in a large family, even pampered, since the great Master of loneliness is the Self, his own I. It is this look that we have on ourselves and that softens us for a moment before slowly killing us. The unrecognized Self creates an isolation between those who smile, live and those who wander, constantly fighting against … themselves. They close the hearts that, for a moment, opened to welcome these drifting souls.
To come out of this loneliness, it is an ultimate test which you will have to face with Courage, Compassion and Conviction.
Let’s see how:
1- Take a breath, then breathe out. Close your eyes.
2- Start over by imagining that your inhale is feminine, and your exhale is masculine. (3 times)
3- Then imagine that your inhale from the second chakra goes up to your nose, and then exhales at the back of your head, the exhale following the curve of your back to return to the second chakra. Creating around your body, an enveloping circle around you (6 times)
4- Now bring your gaze within, and imagine that you are exploring the inside of your body. Search your heart, smile at it. Envelop your heart in Courage and Compassion. And, with Conviction, decide that from this moment you are going to pamper him, pamper yourself and love yourself.
5.Take again the breath in the inspiration of the second chakra, lower part of the belly up to the nose, and exhale while going out at the back of the head to form again the circle enveloping around you. (6 times)
6. Take a last breath, breathe out. Open your eyes.
You just connected your head, your heart and your body. Connecting the sacred feminine, the pool of your emotions to your head. The heart unifying the two.
Savor, and start over every day to get your head used to being connected to yourself.
Do this for 21 days. Then ask yourself after 21 days about your loneliness. See if anything has changed. Feel the sweetness of your new Self, and the presence of your gaze opening up again to others.
Welcome to this head, heart and body relationship. Welcome to yourselves reconciled. Accept this new vibration within you, be “Live”! Quite simply in the present.
Find the other articles of the series in a return to oneself
If you liked this article, I invite you to read also:
-Articles on “A collective aura collective”
Author: Dominique popiolek-Ollé, Transmutation leader, Agile Executive Coach, Founder of In Imago, management consulting and disruptive transformation.